The 3 Biggest Decisions You Will Make in Your Life

Note: If truly applied, I believe this article has the potential to be the most powerful and transformational piece you read of mine. But ONLY if it’s applied.

This morning I woke up with a sense of calm and peace that I haven’t felt in quite a while.

Some might call it flow, but this was a little different from just being super focused and fully absorbed by the task at hand. The house felt quiet, I could hear myself breathing, time seemed to stand still and I couldn’t even feel or see anything beyond what was right in front of me.

Okay, so that totally sounds like flow…

Anyway, I’m not sure what caused it, but I do know that when I feel this way, it’s as though I’m being reminded that I’m on the right path, that things are happening as they should, and that I don’t need to stress about not being at a certain point.

Understandably, I didn’t want to rush through the experience, so I decided to enjoy sitting in the feeling for some time before writing today’s article.

Side note: The old Bryan would have been rushing to get things out on schedule, but sometimes it’s worth slowing down and surrendering to what’s coming up for us in the moment.

But all that aside, here we are. 🙂

In fact, the decision to do things a little differently is closely linked to what I want to speak about today.

Here’s the thing: Every part of your current reality and everything that happens in your life is your responsibility.

I know I’m going to get some haters on that one… 

But if you look at that word ‘responsibility’, it’s simply your ability to respond. In other words, it’s never the thing itself that causes pleasure or pain, but the story you create about it and how you choose to act on it.

For example, it’s why people lose limbs or get diagnosed with a rare condition and either go on to suffer from depression or become motivational speakers.

Same event, different story, very different experience.

The difference lies in recognizing the three key decisions we’re subconsciously making all the time and choosing to make these decisions more intentionally. Once you do so, your entire reality starts to change.

The 3 Biggest Decisions of Your Life

1. What do you choose to focus on?

In any situation, you can choose to either focus on the positive or the negative. Usually, our suffering and resistance comes from focusing on things which are beyond our control. But by shifting your focus to the things you can control, you are able to do something about it.

2. What meaning do you assign to it?

Nothing in life is inherently good or bad. It all comes down to the meaning or the story we tell ourselves about that thing. Getting fired from your job might be the end of the world for some people or it might be an amazing opportunity for others. The bottom line is you get to decide.

3. What action do you take as a result?

Finally, once we’ve chosen where to put our focus and created a new story or interpretation about the event, we are able to choose how we respond to it rather than simply reacting impulsively.

Remember, every system is perfect for the result it gets. If you’re not happy with your current reality, you have the responsibility to create a new system.

Shift your focus to what’s within your control.

Create a new story about the things that happen for you.

Then go out there and choose a more empowered response.